Daily Devotional
Let Your Love Be Without Dissimulation
Text: Romans 12:9 KJV
“Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good.”
Message
Dissimulation is the fact of trying to hide or conceal your real feelings, thought, character, or intentions. Synonyms includes hypocrisy, deceit, pretence, deception.
The word “dissimulation” is significantly positioned in Romans 12:9: “Love without acting;” or better, “love without hypocrisy.” It is interesting to observe that the KJV translators use “dissimulation” only one other time in their translation and this is in Galatians 2:13.
Galatians 2:13, “And the rest of the Jews also played the hypocrite with him, so that even Barnabas was carried away with their hypocrisy.”
So the strong in faith can be carried away by dissimulation. A warning there that though love is contagious it can stand on the tripod of dissimulation.
Truth is Love at the start gives relieves but so soon enters turbulence arising from many quarters, especially from the quantity and quality of our respective emotions, -heart or mind.
Yes relationship can be very engaging but we should not allow emotions be the basis for unrealistic expectations in marriage as that may lead to later exaggeration of faults and errors (Eccles. 5:5).
But thank God every problem can be solved with change of attitude.
See things in your spouse life differently and things will change for both of you.
Don’t panic it is just your emotions, change your emotions.
Emotion expressed itself in forming our attitude and in things that that we think, say or do.
Change your attitude and the fond memories and wine of your marriage will come onboard yet, again and again.
Quit your protective zone, resolve all your conflict, identify your stress points. Turn all around and you will be on your lane to having your wine again.
Truth is conflict is a major character and part of every relationship. Conflict will arise notwithstanding that at the beginning it is the opposite that attracts.
Unravel layer by layer what is the cause of conflicts in your marriage and you will get to the core.
The spouse you are attracted to do not know what you know or what to say! He has no same experience, qualifications, upbringing, emotions, level of faith etc as you have.
Marriage is often word and Opposite. Good the opposite attract but when they come together, they resent each other because of their differences and individuality.
Reality is that person, your spouse is not your problem but great gift and blessings from heaven.
Your spouse is not your opponent, distraction, competitor or your bag of hell on earth. You are complementors, a divine help for each to enable you achieve in line of two are better than one. Both have their rewards multiplied.
Personality differ so is training and background. So,
find time to understand each other.
On discovery of differences couples need wakeup that This they doing with
Couples needs Holy Spirit instructions on how to better understand and deal with their differences. It is then they will get to understand that it is a brand new day, not yesterday, the moment you enter marriage.
It is better you discover what makes the other person an amazing institution than following traditions and Unbelief which can make your marriage something to endure instead of enjoy. I bet it, if God gives both of you long life you cannot live 50-70 years enduring. You will crash and cut short God’s longevity and peaceful ageing He planned for you.
Single mother or father is not it. Those passing through it except for death of a partner, are fakes. No bird can fly with one arm. It requires both. So is your marriage and family!
Remember to let go negative emotions as emotions can be influenced by others. Remember it was Jonadab that furthered Ammon insatiable love for, Tamar, Absalom’s sister! You know the consequences on David genealogy. So be very very careful. God does not bless emotion he blesses action!
Agape love is not based on emotion. It is sacrificial and not conditional. It is compassionate, it is mercy based, permanent, faithful and new everyday. Jeremiah 31:3 says, ” The Lord has appeared of old to me, saying: “Yes, I have loved you with an everlasting love;
Therefore with loving kindness I have drawn you”.
May God touch your heart of stone and that of your spouse, to help your marriage and family out of the woods and wilderness of hate that you presently have for each other.
May your marriage wine returns to you now in the name of Jesus Christ.
Amen.